We read about fairy tale relationships or best relationship or dream relationship in magazines, books, and popular media. We yearn for the romantic illusion that we can have the same kind of relationship like those we read about.
You want the fairy tale and the best relationship of your life, but you don’t know how to be Cinderella.
So the more pessimistic part of you settles for an unfulfilling relationship, knowing it’s not a perfect one but consoling yourself with the fact that it’s better than nothing.
Are you going to console yourself with a less than perfect relationship or are you going to take control and make your own fairytale happen?
You have read in previous issues how to create the psychology for success through wanting a change, believing change is possible, and taking the challenge to learn and grow.
That theory is all great, but what specific actions can you take right now that is going to make your fairytale or best realtionship a reality?
There are a number of crucial steps and mindsets that you need to consider if you are serious about saving your relationship.
When your relationship is going through a rough patch, it’s easy to look outward for someone to blame.
It may be the financial crisis, his parents, the children, his work habits, anything other than looking inward at how you may have contributed to the unhappy outcome you are currently facing.
Are you really a victim of circumstance? Or are you able to take a more balanced view of events?
Is this what you dreamed your relationship would be like? If you were able to see into the future on your wedding day, is today a day that you would be proud of?
If you are not where you want to be in your life and relationship, consider how your reactions are contributing to the state of your relationship.
Is your unhappiness and unfulfillment tainting your relationship and bringing the mood down?
Are you pushing your loved ones away?
What do you want to get out of your relationship-saving journey?
Do you want to save your relationship?
Do you want to prove who is right and wrong, no matter what the cost?
Do you want to punish your partner?
Do you want your old life back?
Do you want to feel valued and loved?
Do you want to be forgiven?
Do you want to start over and relearn what it takes to live the fairytale?
To make success a reality in your relationship, you have to be very clear about your objectives and outcome.
If you have no clear idea about what you want to have happen as you counsel and communicate your way to a resolution, then your relationship is going to go in circles.
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